Thursday, April 17, 2014

How to Fill out Your Online Dating Profile

So you finally worked up the nerve to join an online dating site, great! Now comes the hard part, now you need to fill out your profile. First of all, you should know that if your profile is almost empty you are probably not going to get as many messages, or have people respond to the ones you send. That is why a filled out profile is so important if you are looking to find love online. 
A good profile should be: filled out, personal, creative, and have a genuine feel to it.

Here is how you fill out your online dating profile:

1. Post a great photo of yourself. Photos are important because they make a profile feel more personal and grab people's attention. A profile with a photo is more likely to get messages than one without.

2. Think about your strong attributes and talk a little about them. Do you have any really cool hobbies or interests? Do you like to read, in which case what do you like to read? The reason you want to specify these things is that beyond the fact they give a little more info about you, they are also great conversation starters for people who want to message you on the site. There is no such thing as: "I don't have hobbies". You can list your favorite TV shows or movies: "I'm 33 and I am addicted to good coffee and the new season of Game of Thrones". There is always something personal and great you can say about yourself on a dating web site. Be creative! 

3. Stay away from cliches (like "I love to laugh and have fun". I mean who doesn't?!). Keep it personal, not generic. There are hundreds of profiles on any given matchmaking site, including on Dating for Disabled, why does yours stand out?

4. Don't lie! Don't lie about your age, weight, height or disability. At the end of the day, your goal is to meet someone is person, and they will notice you weren't genuine about your appearance.

5. When you are filling out what you are looking for it is important to be: honest, positive, and not too picky. If you are looking for something serious write that down. If you are looking for something long term and serious there is no reason you shouldn't tell people that. On the one hand you want to attract the right kind of people for you, but you don't want to scare people away with a long list of things you are looking for in a perspective date. Try and maintain a balance between honesty and practicality.

6. Be positive! If you write what you are looking for, as apposed to what you are NOT looking for you are more likely to get messages from other singles on dating sites.

7. Seeing as you are probably on the site to meet other disabled singles, there is no reason to be embarrassed, make sure to list your disability and mobility info on your profile.

8. If you spend some time thinking about what you are going to write (as you should), back it up on your computer, just in case the internet browser errors out and you lose everything.

9. Don't post anything on dating4disabled you don't feel ready and comfortable posting.

10. Don't post any contact or personal information. For your own online safety you shouldn't post your home address or telephone number.

Online dating profiles are a great way to showcase who you are and what you're looking for. Keep in mind that if you are online to meet other singles, and you are looking for a relationship, this is the first impression they are going to get of you. Just like you iron your shirt before a job interview, it is important you iron out all of the creases in your profile as well. Check the grammar and spelling, and make sure you only post things you think will make a good and positive first impression. 

If you have anymore helpful tips, please list them in the comments section so other members can read them!