Thursday, June 19, 2014

How to Deal With Lots of Frustrating First Dates

You don't always meet your perfect match on the first try. Well some people do, but it is fairly rare, so you will probably end up going on a few first dates before meeting someone you can actually envision settling down with. But first dates can sometimes be boring, awkward, or just not that much fun. On the other hand sometimes they are a lot of fun, but there just isn't that chemistry there. After a few bad first dates, you can end up being really annoyed/frustrated with the whole thing, and some people give up entirely. Here are some great tips that will help you plow through that frustration, and find your perfect somebody.

1. Don't just go on dates for the sake of going on dates! If you force yourself to go on dates just because someone asked, or you feel bad declining, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Yes, you may be pleasantly surprised, but chances are you just won't have fun. Only arrange a date with another dating for disabled member you genuinely feel a connection with.

2. Don't go on long dates- keep dates short! Ellen once said that coffee isn't a date, it's an interview for a date. That's exactly how you should look at it. Have a cup of coffee with someone, see how you like them, and then decide if things are worth perusing. If every date you go on with a dating for disabled member lasts three to four hours, of course you will very quickly get tired of dating.

3. Laugh about it! Have a sense of humor about the whole process, and if you had a really awful date, call up a friend and talk about it. I don't mean make fun of the person you went out with, just laugh at the situation.

4. Keep the faith! Sometimes, what you need is to keep reminding yourself that the goal is to meet someone for a serious relationship, and yes, to quote the famous cliche- sometimes you need to kiss a few toads before you find your prince (or princess)! 

For more dating advice, check out our blog on dating for disabled http://www.dating4disabled.com/pages/74