Thursday, May 15, 2014

Why You Should Never Add Your Online Dating Flame to Facebook

Social media is a wonderful place to connect with friends and family. What it isn't, and there is a reason for this, is a dating site. Everyone uses FB in a different way, and to talk with different people. Some of us care if our boss sees our drunk bachelor party photos, and some of us don't.
But the bottom line is this, most people don't have everything on their account public, because the truth of the matter is, we do not want perfect strangers to have access to our private information. Where we live, where we work, where we went to collage, and what about those photos you took with your ex and never quite got round to deleting. There is so much personal information on FB that probably hadn't even occurred to you was on there.
Using FB as an online dating service, or adding someone you just started talking to on an online dating service on FB is a mistake. Primarily, because it's just not safe. You are essentially giving a stranger access to personal information.
On an online matchmaking service, you can control the information. You decide if to post your real name, your photo. It's your choice what you allow other people to see. On FB, you don't have that degree of control, and you probably don't want to have to worry about every little thing you post on your wall. Let alone going through years of photos and comments to check if there is anything embarrassing on there.
It's enough that your aunt Betty posts something along the lines of: "can't wait to see you tonight at  Delino's for Fred's BD!" And now a complete stranger knows where you're going to be. It's not safe, and it's not advisable.

If you've been on a few dates with someone, and things are moving in the right direction, then add them to FB. But if you are someone who guards their privacy, you should think twice about about approving people you just started chatting too.

Whether or not you are using dating for disabled, or another online dating, or disability dating service, the argument stands. Use a proper dating site to meet new people, simply because that way you are in full control over the information you decide to share. 

If you would like to read more about online safety, please go to Dating for Disabled's safety guide:
http://www.dating4disabled.com/pages/4